In order to send a message to another SpankMatch user, you will need to connect with them first.  Once you've connected, you can freely message each other back and forth.  (Note: Only verified users can message other users. Find out how to get verified)

1) Click the "Dashboard" tab at the top

 2) Click the "Messages" tab within the dashboard


3) Once you've connected with another user, their profile will automatically appear in your "conversations". Search their name in the "Search Conversation" tab to begin a new message. (Note: You can also message a connection directly from the "Connections"tab.)

If you have any further questions, our support team is happy to help.  Feel free to email us anytime at